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Monday, December 13, 2010

Hello people!

Yes, I know I haven't been blogging.
Nuffnang definitely isn't happy with that fact too. Heh.

I'm utterly sorry, I know my last post was in September. Which was awfully long ago.
I haven't had the time, and was really busy.

(Yeah, yeah, those of you who know my actual reason for not blogging, SHUT UP!)

I guess all I can announce is, I'm now 15 years of age. Yeah, I didn't blog on my birthday too, how sad.

I guess, I've become older. I've learnt a couple of new stuff. Especially in these few months.
Sorry teachers, it ain't anything education related thought.
Okay fine, I have learnt some good stuff in school. Yes yes. But I think what shines the most now is emotionally inclined lessons.

These past few weeks has been mighty challenging mentally for me. Couple of hiccups here and there, but I guess I managed to pull through.

One of the things about being me is that, I'm obsessive. Over-obsessive, actually. I'm also very emotional and take things to heart.

According to me being a female Scorpio (24/10 - 22/11) is that, we're blessed with the gift to analysize anything and everything. Given a piece of broken fact, we're probably able to think out the outcome and escetra. And I agree to a large extent that I HAVE this ability. But I ain't praisin' myself here.

I realized that I tend to over-analysize things, and bring whatever criticism it has onto myself. Which explains why I tend to get mad at certain comments posted anywhere, and assume that it was about me. So yeah, those who know about it, I'm sorry about that though.

So what I've learnt over these coupla weeks which I know I have to improve on myself is, (you can take these lessons and apply them on yourself as well, learn from my mistakes!)

1) Do not assume.
Assuming gets people angry sometimes. For my case, since I over-analysizes sometimes, I assume that things are or aren't my fault. One way or another, there are people are aren't too happy about that.
Answer: Check with people before assuming. Coming to a case where you have to assume, make sure the situation isn't too versatile before you assume. Assuming in smaller massed-situations is a lot safer.

2) Cut down on obsessiveness.
Obsessiveness is a horrible, I repeat, HORRIBLE trait. Especially if you're dealing with people who hate being tied down. These people are usually the ones who have bad tempers too, I don't mean to stereotype them, but that's just what I realize about most of them. So when they feel like they're being too tied down, they'll probably rip those emotional ropes of yours apart and give you a tight slap. Avoid that!
Answer: You know you're being obsessive when you just had to know what a person is thinking about ALL THE TIME. They have lives too. Try not to ask too much of them. If this person's short tempered, 1-2 questions about their days will be alright. If this person's alright, 4-5 will be good. Usually people kinda feels loved for a moment when you obsess a little. But they might feel tied down when it's too much. Be careful!

3) People have lives too.
This happens when while you're chatting with someone. It gets nice after a while, but if you sense the person kinda wants to push back, you'd better know what to do. They have lives too, and can't be there to talk to you 24/7. Know your and their limits.
Answer: Sense that they want a break, don't try to continue the conversation. It'll just upset the other party. You can usually sense when the person starts to lose interest and their replies tend to be short and quick. Like they're in the middle of a dilemma and you text them. Out of respect they make the effort to reply but are usually short due to short amounts of time. Please do not get angry at them if they lose interest. Remember, they're human too!

This is pretty much the main stuff I've learnt about communicating with people. This is in terms of making friends and building friendships. Please do not use this if it was your boss or something. I'll probably write tips about that if I get a job which requires me to constantly be in contact with my boss. :)

It's currently 1:34am on a Tuesday morning. And I have to get up early for my pilates. (Yeah, right.) Goodnight people! Have an awesome holiday!

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